So girls want it that bad as well?
I came across this article today and couldn’t help but make up my mind to post it. I’m surprised though not shocked to discover that girls or women as the case may be are becoming as sex-hungry as boys or men are (Bussee, wake up and smell the coffee). Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying i thought the female folk were anti-sex. It’s just that so much emphasis has been placed on the man’s sexual drive for so long that it became common place to discover that in relationships, the sex-longing party was the guy. Or if the reason for the break-up of a relationship was sex, then it must have been the guy asking for it?
So, you understand how reading this article made me feel. I’m scared about the kind of place our world is turning into and can’t help but say at times “Come, Lord Jesus to take your own”. LOL. It used to be that the only ones who sex controlled were the males, now it seems the females actually need start/stop valves to regulate their sexual appetite. One cannot but ask in reflection, How much monitoring should be done on wives, girlfriends and fiancees regarding the “sex-current” (don’t mind my grammar) state of things? whose calls should be scanned? whose text messages spied on? whose whereabouts should be adequately questioned? Because it seems……opon ti sun (translated means; power has changed hands).
Please read this short storylike experiences in the article below and state your views:
Can I date without sex?
By Kemi Dayo-Aiyetan
BANJI is 25, good-looking, a youth corps member and is in love with Angelina. ”I must confess she is the best thing to have happened to me and I have made up my mind to marry her. She is pretty, tall and very intelligent. I got to know her a few weeks before my graduation. She is still in school in Abeokuta, Ogun State and I was posted to Jigawa State. ”I made sure I visited her once in every month and she seemed to enjoy my company. But I had a problem with her lately when she visited me. I had opted to sleep on the floor, while she slept on the bed but she refused. She wanted us to sleep together and even have sex. But I refused because I had vowed never to be involved in pre-marital sex.
”I tried to explain to her but she could not fathom what I said and the next day, she left for Abeokuta. Last week, she sent me a text message that she was quitting. Her reason was easy to guess: she did not trust me and believe I don‘t love her enough to sleep with her. Really, I honour the sanctity of the marital bed and I have always told my friends that I would not sleep with any girl until marriage. I am a devout Moslem but not a fanatic. Now, my friends laugh at my folly and this girl actually thinks I‘m impotent just because I don‘t want sex. I‘m really confused,” he said.
Agnes, 27 is a lawyer but also a virgin. According to her, three men had left her due to her insistence on ”no sex.” Is she a nun? ”Of course not!” she answers. ”I just want to maintain my virginity till my wedding day. Sex, to me, is sacred and I would not want to sleep with any man before I get married. Those three men wanted sex and I was not ready to throw away my purity to them because I sensed they would not marry me.”
Will she “release” the virginity to someone who wants her hand in marriage? ”Well, he has to wait till we get married. The last guy, Bosun, jilted me because he believed I made him “suffer.” Suffering to him meant I didn‘t allow sex. Though he bought gifts for me and was caring, I didn‘t see the need to have slept with him. I must confess that it had not been easy because lately, a new boss was posted to my office and he has been all over me, buys gifts, takes me out and wants to date me. Unfortunately, he is married and by his actions whenever we are alone, he will definitely demand sex. My friends are urging me to date him, but I am scared because of sex. He is one of those men who see sex as love. I‘m even afraid that I will lose more men due to this decision.”
Patrick, 28, is handsome and recalled the last time he had sex. ”That was eight years ago and I made up my mind never to sleep with a woman until we are married,” he confesses. With a good job, his car and flat, he is set for marriage but there is a problem. ”Most of the girls believe I‘m impotent because I have refused to sleep with them. We kissed, we caressed and they have seen my erection, but they want the ”real thing.” I have tried to abstain from sex and I almost succeeded, but I have a girlfriend that I love dearly now. Tina is a sweet girl and very homely. Though I have already proposed to her and we have picked December for the wedding, she still wants sex. She would do all sorts of things for me to sleep with her and I have not given in. I must confess that it has not been easy dodging her and keeping to my stand on pre-marital sex. I just pray that I can hold on till December.”
”I don‘t want this girl to lose her virginity before marriage,” says Ade, 30, a civil servant. Though he confesses to have slept with many women before he met Laide, 21, he had promised himself one thing. ”I would not want her defiled before we get married. That girl is a virgin and when she told me, I was happy and told her it was my dream to marry a virgin. But the girl is not interested in my enthusiasm. She wants sex by all means and has threatened to go to her former lover to deflower her if I‘m not capable. The last time she came to my place, she accused me of being an impotent guy, who wants to destroy her life. Me? I told her I had slept with many women and I can‘t possibly be what she thinks. Her answer? I should prove my statement by sleeping with her. This girl is very fragile and just 21. I really appreciate her virginity claim, but she wants sex by all means. She accused me of not loving her because sex, she says, is a sign of love. I‘m really in a dilemma. Do I go ahead and sleep with her to prove my love?
Isn’t is comical that nowadays the female folk demand sex as a proof of love? Thot that was an old trick we guys used in then-a-days. Guys must be feeling completely liberated now that they don’t have to pile the pressure. The other party has taken that responsibility off their shoulders. All they need to do is prepare and ensure that when the time comes, they can prove their “lack of impotence”…LOL. Yeah right!!! Maybe the female folk should begin to think about the generation they are going to birth and the values they’d leave as a legacy before they indulge in scratching the itch between their legs.
Let me state clearly at this point that i really don’t believe in monitoring each other’s lives - for partners i mean. I believe in absolute trust between partners (and by partners, I mean Man and Woman….every other definition is null and void). You can’t know everything and if you did can’t do much to change anything u know. You know about most things when they have happened and not before and as such cannot influence the outcome to a large extent. Why then bother with monitoring when the result if positive would only have stressed and made you suspiscious and if negative would hurt you so much more than if you didn’t know? In all, i’m saying “TRUST IS BEST”.
And of course I strongly believe sex should be had only in marriage between the HUSBAND and HIS WIFE, not wife and other husbands or husband and other wives…LOL
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