It surprisingly stressed people out more than poverty according to research carried out by psychologist, Dr. Daniel Gilbert.
There are just some problems caused by our relationship with money that money itself would not solve for you.
- Money will not change your mindset about money
Iron man, Tony Stark, was born into the wealthy family of government-contractor and scientific genius, Howard Stark. Tony became wealthier as his quick and intelligent mind built on and grew the weapons manufacturing empire his father left behind. Tony’s mindset was that money answered everything, regardless of how it was made. It was not until he was kidnapped and almost killed by miscreants whose lands were being destabilized with his weapons, that he discovered how his making money was contributing to the destabilization of poor nations. He sure did change his mindset about money after that experience.
We all have a mindset about money which was learned subconsciously over the years. Some of us imbibed positive and others, negative ones. Our mindsets about money directly impact our relationships with it. You might have had oppressive experiences where the oppressor had engaged resources with their money to oppress you and grown to think money is a tool for oppression.
- Money is not a pain-killer and will not replace your emptiness
Before Iron Man’s kidnap ( 🙂 well Iron Man wasn’t really kidnapped….Tony Stark was), he felt an emptiness that he tried to use money to fill. He bought fast cars, dated fast women and tried to drown himself in more and more weapons development projects that would earn more money. He had no fulfillment and could not care one way or the other for the administration of the company, which he did not have to, thanks to Pepper Potts, his able secretary.
More money did not erase his pain and emptiness, if anything, it exacerbated it. Lack of money would not have made him feel better either. When he identified his pain point – killing people and decided to erase it by creating a counter purpose point – saving people, his relationship with his money became more resourceful.
- Your behaviour towards money
So, you compulsively order things over the internet just because you are guilt-tripping about over spending….LOL. You want to punish yourself for not sticking to a budget, so you go out and spend beyond your budget, muttering to yourself with fake confidence “Money would not rule over me. It is mine to command”. Well, that new red dress does not think so. Especially because it is going to the top of the pile of other dresses bought out of the same motivation and either not worn at all or worn just one time.
It is said that we cannot talk ourselves out of situations we behaved ourselves into. A feeling of losing control over our finances usually reinforces itself and leads to more out-of-budget spending. It creates a compulsive cycle. Actually, your behaviour towards money is typically a result of your mindset about money. Fixing the latter goes a long way in fixing the former.