Ant Man and The Wasp, the related MCU movie released in 2018 depicted the role of the Wasp being inherited by Hope Van Dyne, the daughter of the original Wasp, Jane Van Dyne.
The plot centred around teaming up with Ant Man to rescue Jane, who had been lost in the quantum realm for a couple of decades.
Although Hank Pym was the major brain behind the quantum dimension research and inventions that could make people bigger or smaller, the funds that made the research possible originally came from Jane. well, from Jane’s wealthy scientist father – Vernon Van Dyne.
Here are some lessons I believe we can learn from Jane’s relationship with money.
When Jane’s father was killed by aliens that he’d been exposed to during one of his experiments, Jane inherited his wealth and secured the services of his associate Hank Pym to turn her into a shrinking superhero and avenge her father.
How safe does money make you feel? Did you have any significant emotional experiences growing up where you felt unsafe and insecure as a result of lack of money? Understand that significance is not real. It was learned and can be unlearned. You can develop the ability to feel secure in yourself, unconnected to the amount of money you have or don’t have.
Having money made it easy for the Wasp to decide what she wanted to do with her life in the short-term – Avenge her Dad, and long-term – seek out and defeat villains. She had sufficient control over her life to make her own choices.
Do you ever feel like you have no control over your life choices – diet, location, education, career, spouse etc. because you grew up compromising control and freedom for money personally or within the family? Someone once said, we can’t determine what direction the wind would blow, all we can do is set our sails. Autonomy and control are territories we must seize absolutely first, in our minds before we can engage them in our lives. Many people earn a lot of money but still feel they do not have any control over their lives, time or direction.
The Wasp decided her purpose was to fight villains on behalf of society, using her superhero powers to keep them safe. Ofcourse, she had inherited a lot of wealth with which she could continue to fund her superhero status to achieve her purpose.
It seems quite easy to define our purpose when we are financially free. However, it is more important to find our purpose when we are still financially dependent and let that purpose fuel and strengthen our resolve to be financially independent and free, so that we can live out that purpose.
Having tracked down and killed the aliens that murdered her father, the Wasp suggested the forming of an alliance of superheroes, the Avengers. She muted the idea after discovering there were more villains out there than she could handle alone. Being a superhero was becoming lonely.
Many people feel the need to be part of a community and spend as if to qualify for acceptance into that community. They buy things they don’t need to impress people who don’t like them, just to gain acceptance into certain social circles. If you are like that, you are in a high maintenance relationship with money.
Superheroes become the centre of attention anywhere they go or whatever they do. They constantly occupy centre-stage whether they want to, like to or not. The Wasp was simply trying to avenge her father, but became the centre of attention anyway. Her wealth was instrumental in making her a superhero. However, the attention she drew was never the goal from the onset.
Do you feel like you crave attention? Do you feed off attention? How do you feel when people commend your expensive designer clothes, home, cars etc. Do you seek to make money to fund getting more and more attention? You might be in a toxic relationship with money.